Reflecting on her own painful experiences, Ms. Tupsy revealed how she endured her first incident of violence, which left her with a swollen jaw and weeks of pain. At the time, she convinced herself that she must have provoked the anger, a thought many abuse victims grapple with. Things escalated further when she had to witness her daughter seeing her slapped. Her ordeal took a serious turn when she woke up one morning to find blood on her pillow from a ruptured eardrum caused by another violent incident. For her, the final straw came when she was assaulted again, prompting her to involve the police.

In response to recent claims by Mr. Omokri, where he expressed contentment in his new marriage with a woman who “doesn’t quarrel,” Ms. Tupsy expressed her perspective. She highlighted that he sought someone he could control and intimidate, qualities she could never embody. Raised to be strong and assertive, she made it clear she was never meant to be a person to submit to abuse or fear.

Her message reminds women everywhere that they deserve better, and no one should ever feel compelled to remain in a harmful relationship.